I have to be perfectly frank with you...
I think part of the reason why I love working at the bar is because I get so much love it is bordering ridiculous. LOL!! I was asked out 5 times last night. That is relatively typical. With the amount of compliments and men professing their love for me...how can one not love that? LOL! I promise...it isn't going to my head. I believe that part of the reason I get so much love is because I dress nice, wear make-up, look polished, have all my teeth and stand apart from all the other women not to mention there aren't too many latina ladies in that primarily anglo hood. Of course my charm, wit and general good aura play a role as well.
Here is something to discuss....
There was a team of 3 that came in last night; 2 of them were young....younger than me and one was older. One of the younger ones approached me several times asking me to give his friend (the older one) a chance by giving him my number and talking to him. My reply was: ARE YOU SERIOUS? What are we...in grade 5? First off let me say, I know their ages because I checked their IDs. The 'older' one is 33. I am sorry, if you can't approach a woman yourself....you are shit out of luck. This is what I told the young one. I am not sympathetic to dudes who don't have the courage to go and talk to a woman and instead send their underlings. NO DICE!!! Of course this didn't illicit a pleasant response from the young one. I get that the older one has a complex...being 5' tall and all...but I would find it much more honorable for him to man up and say something himself. He still wouldn't have gotten anywhere...but at least he tried. I try to apply the same rule in my life...take a risk. Of course it may not work out...but at least you tried!
I hope I don't sound like a heartless mean person...but I have learned this lesson myself. I have for sure put myself out there just to get rejected...MANY TIMES!!! But am I really going to stand down and carry a perpetual sense of defeat? NO WAY!! If anything...it makes you stronger, harder, tougher and more of a go getter, almost relentless. I prefer it like that! I am actually thankful for all the rejections and put downs. If I hadn't suffered the way I did growing up...I don't think I would be who I am today. I realize it is important to be sensitive to one's issues, I totally acknowledge this. However...when it comes to the dating world, I believe there really isn't any room for a lack of conviction. Maybe this is only existing my bubble of a world. Who knows! Food for thought!
Well folks...it is Thursday. Tonight is Karaoke night....YAY!!! I have to seriously bust ass tonight. Need to kill it so that I make as much as I can in tips. I finally got my hydro bill...my first one since I have moved in 3 months ago and it is a douzy. Uggggh!!! Not to mention I have a dentist appointment next week and I don't have a health plan. This is a major money spending month.
Till tomorrow folks xo
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