Of course, as usual, I have about a zillion things on my mind. If I were to share in bullet form, that would still be a VERY long blog. I will have to prioritize for you!
I am in a great mood today. Not too sure why!! Nothing exceptional has happened. I guess the ickiness from the weekend is fading. YAY!!!
I have 2 friends that have struck a nerve with me. They definitely don't know this because I haven't shared with them but how can they not know that they have disrespected me...that would be total and utter ignorance. One the one hand I shouldn't be upset because this is very typical behavior of them but on the other hand, I am getting tired of making excuses for their caca behavior. Uggghh!!!
I think I am short of patience stemming from the bar. Here is a statistic for you; only 1 in 4 people tip. I have reached the limit to my patience with these people. I MUST devise a plan to expose them. All I can think of is what Amy Adams did in the movie The Fighter. She had a cow bell that she would ring if someone didn't tip. I WANT THAT!!!!! I like this idea very much but...I really would be ringing that bell way too often...more than I think I could handle. Mind you, people just might get the hint and start tipping just to avoid the sound of the bell. Anyone have any other ideas? Please....do share!
Back to this friend business; I know I recently blogged about having some of the dearest friends ever and that I am super fortunate. I still stand by this. I have however been reminded that there are a few bad apples in the crowd and by bad I mean...ones that don't even come close to giving me what I give them. I am getting to an age where my free time is running low as is everyone else's BUT I will not tolerate going the extra mile for them (as I always have) just to get neglected or shafted. I don't have the time or patience to sustain these friendships anymore. I really need to do some mind f***ing to train myself not to care and just let them be. It is very sad actually!
Uggggh.....ok!! I am no longer in a good mood! xo P
1 comment:
Dear Sexy Sailor,
I am, as ever, glad to be privy to your thoughts. My own cynicism will address both of your concerns: one about giving and receiving amongst friends, and the other about tipping at the bar. Imagine that beneath the veil of man-made modern society as we know it, we are all animals living in the Sahara desert. Whether predator or prey, we are all struggling to survive and must look out for #1 (a.k.a. ourselves!). As such, our survival depends on receiving at least as much, but ideally more, than we give (so that we can at least survive, but hopefully THRIVE). Although it is in our interest to give to those from whom we expect to receive, I suppose the only reason we do that is to ensure continuous receipt from the other. The ultimate equation involves receiving as much as possible and capitalizing on our resources. As such, people want to keep their money even if they are screwing you out of a tip, and similarly friends want to receive as much as you are willing to give (e.g., support, etc.) even if this exceeds what they are able or willing to give you. Either way, I would encourage you not to fall prey in the desert! Roar!!! LOVE U
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